The silver lining of destiny

Birkarnelzelzit Thiyam *

"I can't forget her," just a regular echo. There is no subtraction in our mind, the more you try — the more it multiplies. All you have to do is pay a little more attention to accept how the mind functions — for you have to know what you are and what you have gathered. What you think is not you but what things you accept when you think is you.

So, having negative thoughts doesn't make you a bad person, until you accept it to execute it. There is another you beyond your own thoughts and emotions, that has to come into your experience. That beyond thing is nothing but the consciousness in being alive. I guess that's all it takes to be an amazing person, not millions of good or bad thoughts.

Your mind is created by collections and your body is created by consumptions, the moment you keep this in your understanding and create a space between the two — that's when your suffering will end. You are way beyond your thoughts, you are way more complex than your abilities — all you have to do is don't get distracted and try giving more attention to your inner calling and purpose.

'Life' is the biggest verb, it only turns into a 'noun' right after you are burned, buried or left for the scavengers. So, 'effort' is the 'key' or the never ending fuel in voting for the statement that life is a verb.

You may ask, if effort is not a choice but a necessity, why do some fail with all the efforts? Timing and magnitude is the answer. If you do not give enough effort in the right time, it goes wasted. So, success is not about who gives more effort — it's all about `are you able to live your life to your full potential?'

If life is beyond thoughts and necessary efforts, why sometimes destiny comes hard on us? What is even a destiny? Did you get to choose your parents? NO. But did you get to choose how you will live with your parents?

YES. Situations are destinies but your responses are not destinies. So, when an ugly destiny hits you hard, respond in the best way so it affects the upcoming destinies. That's why people say 'your life is your karma.'

Karma — your doing — it's nothing but those responses to those ugly destinies. And the karma cycle will reward you — might not be right away but your persistence will make you wait for the payment.

And necessary effort doesn't just mean hard work, but the right effort for the right job. Look around you, people still think that marks are the only key to happiness, some think reading loud makes you learn fast, and many more.

People say don't take shortcuts in life but inventions are made by lazy people who keep looking for shortcuts, so life is all about looking for the right shortcut at the right time. The harder you work — the harder your life will be. Do all the choices give us freedom of choosing? Yes, until addiction hits.

The first cigarette was your choice even with all the coughs but the 10th was a calling because of the addiction. Thereafter, you will try hard to make a choice to not choose it. So, everything in your life basically happened with your second choice. But some, you did it willingly and some not, some by your own and some were influenced, some knowingly and some unknowingly.

And most unknowingly chosen choices are seen as destiny because it was not a calculated move so anything that comes or happens is very foreign to you. Destinies are the situations that arise when choices are made unknowingly. Coming down, the instinctive choice of that single sperm gave you a life, and the influence choice from your parents to create life gave you entry to this world.

So, it's all the choices. If again you start living consciously, making conscious choices — you will meet yourself that's beyond your thoughts and emotions.