Falling in love with fear
Birkarnelzelzit Thiyam *
It germinated in my mind only yesterday that 'Slowly is the fastest way to walk through life.' But 'Fear' kept me static or at my fastest. These thoughts and feelings about life keep coming to me. Life was never on my side, I have always had a feeling that life is really just a "game of try," a game where you are given unlimited attempts as long as your "WILL" is alive.
It's a 'never out' game; a game where all you gotta do is 'never stop.' For those who are now going through toughest times of their life, don't think you will be trapped there, for `time' will pull you out and all you gotta do is prepare yourself to land safely when `time' drags you out of that phase of your life.
And even though you fall, never forget that chances are your choices and no one gives those chances to you, but you have to create one, no one will cheer you up until you try getting up first, no one will look at you until you make waves in this crowd.
Remember that you woke up in a senseless crowd where competition is the only means for growth, your victory is defmed by the strength of your opponent, your happiness is defmed by the emotions of your fans, your height is defined by how low your surroundings are, above all these messes—if you still have a dream in your heart.
Bravo ! That's not just a dream but a gift, you got to nurture it for the last question of your evening, "Did I live doing what made me happy?" You are never too late to chase your dreams until your feeling of wanting to try still lives in you. Every journey starts from a decision to try; every accomplishment comes from a decision to try.
And while chasing your dreams, `fears' will come along as well but the only 'fear' that you need to welcome in your life is the 'fear of death.' This will keep your `mortal-ness' in your conscious realm. Which then will make you understand the sentence, "time is running out." People who can follow this statement will be those against procrastination, and it will kill the 'fear of trying.'
Don't worry-every story is unique and every life is beautiful but those who dares to never give up have the best -selling stories. Your name that you hate, your skin tone that you curse, your dress that you never loved wearing will one day go to the novels and auctions that will inspire and cost millions. Don't waste your time trying to fit in when you have the capacity to create a trend.
If you can sing- don't just waste your time only listening to songs, if you can dance—don't jail that talent for just 30 minutes morning exercise, if you can write—don't just end up with your diary. The moment you feel you can, just do it, that's the best time to start in life. Look at a table with four legs, that one unfortunate wobbly leg is given the utmost importance, and the strongest leg is given the least.
So, in life—your importance might sometimes be never appreciated but you don't have to fail stuff just to create attention hubs for proving your weight. Remember that a curry with the right amount of salt gets the least acknowledgement until the salt's proportion gets disturbed. What surrounds you is not important but what you choose to surround yourself with is the most important thing.
Because who surrounds you is beyond your capability for you might have landed up with a foolish roommate during your school days but whom you made friends with was up to you. Everytime you face an obstacle, remember how you crossed the last one. Take life like a politician, and see your problems as your voters, don't push them away—just handle it with care and use them for the goodness of all.
Your haters are the SI unit of your success, don't keep them far, just watch them like a measuring device. All obstacles are levels until you stop looking down at them and all problems are lessons until you stop fearing them. Also remember that, 'patience' when we have nothing and 'attitude' when we have everything are the defmitions of our personality.
Walk in the path you wish to learn the most, not the path which you will make the least mistakes. And to always keep in mind, ladders and hurdles are of the same thing, just that hurdles are not user friendly; both take you to the higher platform. So, it's meant to be stepped on, not to sleep under.
Therefore, from now on, if you see any hurdles or problems, get your right leg up high for they are just the stairs taking you closer to your wants. Sometimes the tree which bends the most passes through the toughest storms, sometimes the laziest person invents the most efficient objects, sometimes your best friend turns out to be your worst enemy, sometimes your toughest days give the best results.
But the safest roads lead to the biggest herd, the well-designed roads are the shortest, the safe spot on the mountain doesn't give the best view. All these lines might not seem connected but trust me, that's all true.
* Birkarnelzelzit Thiyam wrote this article for The Sangai Express
The writer is an International Awardee and also a major in International Business Marketing from Algonquin, Ottawa, Canada.
He is also the director of The Oratory Academy, and the founder of International Youth Alliance, based in Canada.
He can be reached at birkarnelzelzitthiyam3073(AT)gmail(DOT)com
This article was webcasted on 19 December 2022
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