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Not just one Rotten Potato
Comment on "Status of Manipuris in Delhi"

By: Anil Shoibam *

Its a fantastic article on the status of Manipuris in the capital city. But what I want to add here is that its not only the trauma in the capital city but also in big cities like Bangalore, Mumbai......

It is an eye opener for all Manipuris living/staying outside or back home in our Manipur. Thanks to the guts and courage shown to us by our respected scientist L Robindro.

I agree with Robindro but not entirely. So many people have given their views and suggestions. After reading all those comments I could not sit back but force me to express some of my comments.

Our Robindro has correctly mentioned that "Women are the mirror of the society". He also mentioned "Cheng chagring amana cheng meruk ama mang thok pagum bani". In this context I just want to express that its not the single rotten potato who is spoiling the whole sag. So many are there.

As I have mentioned before many people have given their comments. One of them has used very bad language. Its really disgusting.

This shows that they are really frustrated and they cant bear what other say. It really indicates that what others are saying is perfectly correct.

In one of the comments it is written "I personally have many non-Manipuri friends and they are one of the best friends I have in my life. What does the writer mean by "Girls having illicit affairs with Mayangs (Non-Manipuris from Mainland India) because of some Arang-arak"???- What right have the author got to define somebody's feelings as "illicit"; leave alone judge them to be right or wrong"

Its is as clear as deep blue sea that their relationship is illicit. There is no denying that many Manipuri girls are staying with mayangs without proper marriage. What name do you want to give for such relationships? You have any name?

Please do not forget that you are a Manipuri. Your tradition is entirely different from mayang's tradition. They can do whatever they want. It may be their tradition but not our tradition.

Their tradition may allow a girl to sleep with a boy before marriage in the name of enjoyment and after that get her married to an another boy. This is their tradition.

By simply staying /living outside Manipur donot think that you are not a Manipuri. Donot forget your identity.

"Being with a non-Manipuri men gives them the likely prospect of a better future, better life- being in a peaceful, developed city which she might not achieve by getting married to a Manipuri guy - why do we blame them for dreaming?"

I don't agree a single word in this context. I m sorry eshanou to tell yuu like this. What a thought......What a dream.....Are you so sure that being with non Manipuri's you will get all these things...better prospect. better life...peaceful life...I feel pity for yuo.

You are directly blaming manipuri people. It seems that you don't have any respect for Manipuris. Give me at least 1% of proof to prove what you have written here. Just keep ur eye wide open and see what has happened to all those girls who have to non manipuris. Only 5-6% of them are living as you said but the remaining 94-95% are repenting like anything.

"There are numerous young women who have been deceived by none other than, our own gallant and loyal Meitei man". Here I want to ask those eches/echals who are with mayangs one question. If you are deceived by meeties man, is it necessary to go with mayangs and let them deceive you? Is it Ok.........

It is also saying that "I have had friends who have had non-Manipuri boyfriends, have lost their virginity, yet being successful in their professional lives, excelling academically, having great relationships with their families and friends". This is a courageous statement. nice one.

But I want to ask this author "How many Sumang Lila called "21st centurygi kunti" are you going to let other produce?" Or is it (21st centurygi kunti) already happened back home in our Manipur?

"Why should the little girls smartly and comfortably dressed in skirts be forced to wear our beloved Phaneks? Mind you, I love wearing Phaneks, and believe it to be the most glamorous piece of clothing in my wardrobe. But why are not we given a choice on what we want to do or wear? Why is it something which has to be imposed?"

Regarding dresses its true that girls are forced to wear something very specifically. But boys don't have such imposition. Girls think that there is a partiality. But they should know why there is a partiality against them.

We are manipuris only, even though we are staying/living outside. They should wear clothes of their size, mind you, correct size. If we stand on the roads of delhi/bangalore/Mumbai.

We don't feel like telling our friends that those girls are from Manipur after seeing their dress. It looks so horrible that sometimes I feel like changing my title from meetei to something else.... sorry for those eches/echals who are not in this group.

Having said all these Please don't take me wrong. Its my personal comment only. I m really sorry if it hurts somebody's heart.

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