Recycling of anger

Dr Sumedha Kushwaha *

Anger is a beautiful tool for some who can use it constructively to create. But for fools, it is nothing other than a destroyer of pure, raw energy. When used constructively, it is a means or a vehicle of transformation of inner feelings of pain and unspoken expectations into tangible concrete goals and results.

It can mean letting life become the guide and maybe your emotions taking the driver's seat to steer in a way that's best at that moment. Everyone tells you to think through your head, but actually we should act through our hearts-that's when the real you surfaces.

People say that all calculations go haywire, two plus two becomes a hundred and two when the decisions are taken after listening to your emotions. But, is it wrong to listen to your emotions? Don't they tell you the truth?

Emotions are the key to solving the biggest and most stagnant problems. How? Because when you act with your heart - you don't calculate risks, you don't see profit and loss, you don't see what is it for you in this - you just let yourself be.

When I say fools use anger unwisely-these are the people who shout or yell or fight. They will dissipate this energy by breaking things and bones. But, what do they get out it ? Nothing- sheer wastage of resources and in the end they lose what they want too.

Anger in modulation can become your best friend because it makes you more competitive, efficient and sharp. When out of your control, it makes you lose temper, friends and family. Somebody can tolerate your anger for a few times, but after that why would anyone put so much energy with you and for you, if in return what they get is disrespect?

There comes a point in life when anger turns into silence and grief. That's when it is too much to handle for people. And once people reach that place, it is hard to come back. Because now it is no more anger which was once tangible and felt.

Since the emotion has piled up for a while- it becomes an intangible and abstract feeling which has transmuted into pain, maybe then tears and then grief. In that situation, you aren't angry- you become anger. You don't yell or shout, you become silence; the unspoken feelings. You just don't react because you have now become the reaction in yourself.

No one understands you, not even you yourself, we all know only a part of ourselves. We claim we understand each other, our partners, parents, children-but in reality you don't know what is going in the mind of the other person.

We can judge only by emotions- which are the language of the heart. But the emotions transmute- anger into pain, pain into grief. So if someone yells at you maybe they are very upset about something. In short you never understand anything.

We are all at the surface. So, when you are angry next time- just laugh out loud ! Because laughter is the best medicine. Laughing and smiling at silly people and situations doesn't solve any problem, but it has the capability to make you feel in control of your emotions.

The transmutation of energy happens in the direction you want it to be. And laughing will control your blood pressure, heart rate and hormones and hence is obviously a positive direction.

Imagine yourself now infront of your grumpy wife steaming at 100 degrees because you forgot to buy milk on your way back and instead of retaliating back- just do a few sirups and she and you both will burst out laughing.